Chick Stuff
Saturday, January 29, 2011
GUYS THAT WILL SUCK and make your Life Miserable - STEER CLEAR OF THESE GUYS ("men")
AVOID THESE TYPES OF GUYS (Men - some never grow up, so "man" is a loose term - you know
that's why you're reading this)
• The guy can't look you in the eyes. He's full of Lies.
• The guy who doesn't come to your door or pick you up for dates. He waits. Or expects you to drive and meet him out. A dolt with no manners, and not worth your time.
• A guy expecting you to split the tab or pay the whole thing. Total parasite, cheap skate, selfish, and everything you'll be disgusted by every time you go out. Drop him.
• A man who starts borrowing money .. Wait, quit him before he starts. Buh Bye.
• A man who tells you lies, white lies, little lies, half truths and "stories" that don't add up. Also, omissions of truth, or pertinent information.
• A man who stares at other women in your company, flirts with them or has the cheek to take someone else’s number while out with you (he’s a lout, get rid of him yesterday already!) DUH, hopefully that turns you off. If it doesn't, you've got serious self worth issues, and the next guy is bound to be one of these ya need to toss to the ditch as well.
• A man who has shaky boundaries and who doesn’t respect yours (he will want enmeshment and will only suffocate you)
• A man who expects you to fight his battles for him or cover for him when he messes up (he has no balls, which means he’ll never be able to protect you) They're usually the ones who talk it up .. "I'll do anything for you baby". "I'm here for you always" "You are safe with me, I'll protect you" ... talk is cheap, actions, not words. Don't tell me, show me, otherwise beat feet the other way.
• A man who drinks excessively or whose behavior changes when he consumes alcohol (watch out, alcoholic!!!)
A man who thinks Beavis and Butthead are funny enough to imitate when y'all are out and among your friends or family...
• A man who seems to be hiding things from you or seems cagey when you question him about certain things (not to be trusted)
• A man who doesn’t appear to have strong family ties or doesn’t feel that family should be important (loose cannon only looking for casual sex, parties and a good time)
• A man who dislikes children (if you are thinking of having a family) Or pretends to like them but when around them, dismisses or shows intolerance of their presence.
• A man who is overbearing or threatened by your strength, opinions or career (he will try to cut you down whenever he feels threatened) Or your personality, looks, brains, whatever it is, if he is threatened by it, or diminishes those things, belittles, invalidates, takes away from those great things you have to offer----GET OUT -- He WILL be increasingly abusive, and you will be in a toxic wasteland, not a relationship.
• A man who is threatened by your passions & ideals (he’ll try to suppress you) Same as above, RUN, get out and don't look back. He is toxic. You will be infected and constantly fighting the poison he spews into your landfill of a "relationship"
• A man who discourages you from seeing your family or friends (insecure lout, run a mile!)
• A man who is threatened by your friendships or ex’s (insecure lout, keep running!)
• An unemployed man or a man with financial problems (he may end up expecting you to pay for everything)
• A man who cannot stand up for himself (he may expect you to fight his battles for him)
The "nice guy" syndrome. You get to hear the whining and smack talk, but see him buckle and bend in front of those he can't say no or stand up to. ( mothers, sisters, ex-wives, friends, clients, kids etc.)
• A divorced man who doesn’t pay child-support to his ex or doesn’t see his children regularly (doh, need I say more???)
• An unhygienic man with bad breath or bad body odour (you’ll have mother him)
• A man who doesn’t return your calls but waits a week or two to call you back (you’re on his “good time only” list)
• A man who talks about himself and doesn’t bother to ask questions about you, your family or your interests (egotistical)
• Any man you suspect of abusing any substances (run a mile)
• A recovering addict or alcoholic (they should avoid all forms of romantic relationships for at least the first year of their sobriety) Make that 2 or 3 years. IF at all. Some can finally drop the substance, but not the "thinking problem" they had with it. "Dry drunks" are worse than the ones who finally drink themselves out cold.
• A man who is too attached to his mother (you’ll be trying to cut the umbilical cord for the rest of the relationship!) We always think a guy who loves his mom is a good thing, it is, but there's a difference. Being a good son with respect for and a high regard for his mom is cool. If they talk EVERY day, socialize more than for just special occasions and holidays, or tells her everything like you tell your best friend, GET OUT. She will always undermine you, and you will always be second to her. Yes, it's creepy, but it doesn't seem that way until you're close and in the relationship, and then you'll wish you got in with the Addams Family.. Less creepy.
• A man who hates his mother (all his mommy issues will be targeted at you!)
Overtly or passive aggressively. Hopefully you've learned how to detect passive aggressive personalities--- Whether men or women, you'll know that these people in any type of relationship are toxic to the energy of the universe. Call Hazmat and steer clear.
( Would you rather be slapped in the face, or stabbed in the back.) Right, you don't want either, but you are guaranteed a knife in your back, so turn around and stay away, period.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
The Constant Fear Is Not Our Fault
18 January 2011
Are you always scared of getting into trouble?
Do you live in constant fear of others being angry or cross with you? Are you scared to stand up for yourself for fear of bringing others' wrath down upon you?
Dear Fellow DoNM, (Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers)
It totally sucks, doesn't it?
Constantly having a fear of getting into trouble and having others cross or angry with you ... living in terror of standing up for yourself in case others disapprove of you ... always living with the danger of others' attacks r(or the fear of them at least).
Does this resonate with you?
If so, you need to know that it's NOT your fault. It isn't a flaw or weakness in you. It's just that she trained you so well, from birth, to be scared, and your body and mind have learned that anger and attack can come from any direction at any time. The fear is an automatic reaction now.
The good news is that it doesn't have to continue to be this way!
In fact, this might be the important information you've ever read, because I'm about to share with you a secret way of literally erasing this fear of getting into trouble from your body and mind.
Imagine what it would be like to:
1. No longer have any fear of getting into trouble.
2. Be able to be calm if others are angry with you
3. Be very centred and calm when you speak your truth.
4. No longer have to worry about others' reactions to you.
It would be wonderful, wouldn't it! Imagine the sheer bliss of it.
Well you don't just have to imagine it. You can live it. Read on to find out how.
So what is this secret which can free you from this fear of gettinginto trouble?
The solution is EFT, also called Tapping. It involves nothing more complex than tapping gently on acupuncture points, and it literally erases negative emotions such as the hurt and pain you're experiencing.
And it does that amazingly quickly and easily. Just zaps the hurt and pain into oblivion. It's hard to describe it until you've experienced it - the negative emotions just fade away till they're completely and utterly gone! Vanished, eradicated and non-existent.
What EFT is NOT:
It is NOT talk-therapy. Although there is usually an element of talking, it is really body-work with a talking element, rather than just talking.
It is NOT hypnosis. Although you might find it relaxing, you do not go into any kind of hypnotic trance.
It is NOT faith-healing. You absolutely do not have to believe it for it to work. You can be as sceptical as you like.
It is NOT in any way religious. There is no belief system whatsoever needed.
How EFT is different from traditional counselling:
It makes changes at a much deeper level. Did you ever know something rationally, but not know it deep down? With EFT you experience the acceptance and peace deep down, in your gut and heart and soul, not just as an abstract theory.
It's much, much quicker. Changes that used to take months of therapy can now happen in tens of minutes, or hours at most.
It's much gentler - you can even heal your issue without talking or even thinking about it - you just give it a title or label, and work on that until it's easy to think/talk about.
It's much cheaper: as it's so much quicker, it costs so much less.
Quite frankly, EFT makes traditional counselling obsolete. Why just talk about it when you can heal it?
I came to EFT when I was trying to heal what I now know is the DONM legacy, and I was blown away by the results. It changed my life, literally. I erased issue after issue after issue (traumas, addictions, phobias, limiting beliefs and other blocks), and life just kept getting better and better in terms of better health, better relationships and more joy and contentment in my life. (And I am still using EFT every day, and improving my life every day.)
I then trained as an EFT practitioner - because I knew this was too good to keep to myself, and have helped hundreds of clients over the past seven years to erase phobias, traumas, anxiety and a myriad of other issues. You can see some of the non-DONM feedback here.
As soon as I realised about the unique crazy-making upbringing we DONMs have, I knew that EFT could powerfully resolve these issues quickly and easily. This is why I share, on this site, a video on how to do EFT so you can use it for yourself. The resource is very real and very good, but the challenge is that usually people find it very difficult to know what to say as they tap. And so I have come up with a solution I'm very excited about:
I have created a script in which I guide you
as you tap on this fear of getting into trouble and gently erase it.
This script is very carefully crafted, using my many years of EFT experience combined with my lifetime of DONM experience, to give you a resource which will quite simply erase this fear.
This resourse is unique in the world - created by a DONM for DONMs, addressing the unique issues our crazy upbringing has given us.
Here some comments from DONM forum members who have benefited from their experiences with EFT:
Eating Healthily!
Just checked my food diary and was amazed to see that I didn't eat anything for 2 hours after tapping [The 'Self-Harm' video] - wow! And what I did eat was a cheese and tomato croissant followed 2½ hours later by some mushroom soup.
So I'm seeing results already!
As the results of my neglect [i.e. her business sabotage] became clear today, I had the urge to commit more neglect. I found myself reaching for the mouse to [waste time on the internet] and I checked a couple of news sites about four times. I decided if I was going to do something other than work than it would be EFT. So, I did the self-harm session and then the healing resistance video. While I still felt really disappointed, I got back to work.
Forum Member 'Christine'
The most productive day yet since doing the Tapping!
I think today was probably the most productive day since the beginning of EFT. I did the healing resistance first today and then the self-harm sessions. The huge difference is that [the fallout from her business neglect] would have been proof of my “incompetence” two weeks ago. Today it was “what can I do to mitigate the fallout.”
Forum Member 'Christine'
Used EFT to avoid displacement activities and do the work!
Well, the marketing email is done and queued up to go out at 9:00 am. I stopped in the middle of the process and did and EFT session on hiding. I just wanted to go to the dog park or do something else completely. I had plenty of opportunities to run away so I thought a good session in the middle of it all would help. I think it did. I got some writing done as well.
Forum Member 'Christine', who had been sabotaging by not doing her marketing.)
A superb script!
The script is absolutely ideal for this self-harm/DoNM stuff! It's specific enough to target this particular phenomenon, but broad enough for each person to apply to her own particular penchant for self-harm/neglect/punishment. A superb job, Danu; thank you so much!
Forum Member 'Alex'
This is done in the form of a diary entry by forum member 'Reader'.
Got taken on by an agency after Tapping!
EFT for five days in a row
Feel confident enough to finally apply to a professional talent agency
Get signed with an agency within the hour
Have a complete DoNM-style FREAK OUT that I suck at everything and who the hell do I think I am signing with an agent?
Make the conscious choice to ignore the inner demons and go back to EFT
A few days of calm
Sign up for multiple auditions and become absolutely shameless about self promotion
Have another major FREAK OUT and think I suck at everything
More EFT
I'm currently in a calm place where I still hear the inner voices telling me I suck, but I am making the conscious choice to tap-tap-tap when I feel that anxiety and proceed anyway.
I've also been writing like mad and have plans to push my writing to a literary agency. Feeling major anxiety around that, too, but screw it. Back to EFT. Gonna do it. Life is short.
So this is amazing stuff.
Forum Member 'Reader'
I have practiced EFT for over seven years, TFT for four years and cognitive therapy for almost thirty. Both of my parents are card-carrying narcissists and I bore the brunt of this madness and my mother, especially, was diabolical. What I realized is that no one directly deals with the feelings that any child of a narcissist has because few understand it. So when I used EFT myself I got close but never was able to address the issues that you cover because even I didn't understand what I was feeling.
I have the manuals but I prefer to watch you on the video because you are such a comforting presence, I don't have to feel alone and you have such a beautiful voice.
The first video I tapped along to ("Self-Punishment") I felt so good- and then suddenly craved a box of See's candy. I was shocked because I used to have a severe craving for See's that I had dealt with before and hadn't eaten in years. However, sitting and tapping through the feelings, the craving went away completely- and I knew I was on the right track. At first, I thought that the "Self-Punishment" video wasn't about me because my (and probably others') issues have long been ignored or misidentified - yet it was! I have been punishing myself all of my life through overeating, self-denial, self-sabotage, you name it. Tears came up while I was tapping but they were cleansing because I was, at last, hearing the truth.
I've only had three of your videos ("I Never Belong", "Self-Punishment", "Not Safe to Heal") as well as all of the PDF's. I repeat the "7 Words" all the time and I find them quite comforting to say. I especially like the fact that you've included the positive "Choices" in your videos because I need to know where to go next. I find myself ending the session with a smile.
When I used them the first day, I couldn't believe your words- they felt too foreign even after all of this therapy. However, five days later, I'm nodding my head in agreement as I do my tapping. Interestingly, I have had a much easier time creating healthier boundaries and making healing choices, which is something I wouldn't have expected. Hearing the truth in a non-combative manner, from someone who finally understands me, is like a balm to my heart, mind and soul.
I know through using EFT for so long that specificity is crucial. Yet, I found myself "dancing" around the issue of narcissism because I had never identified it- and nor had anyone else. I have thousands of pages downloaded from Gary Craig's [EFT's founder] original site, not to mention the hundreds of dollars I've wasted on EFT practitioners. The "elephant in the living room" was always missing, so while I found some success I was always just "missing the mark". When I watched your first video, many feelings came up, but mainly recognition. I nodded my head and smiled through the tears as I tapped and thought, "Somebody finally understands me!". My inner child has longed to hear the words that you use in the videos all of my life and I find repeated listening extremely calming and reassuring.
I know that you had worked hard on the wording because I recognize the various techniques that you use. The "art of delivery" comes in- not with the techniques- but the application of them. Most beginners of EFT get stuck with "What do I say?" and you resolve that here beautifully.
So, thank you and I will be eager to buy more!
This is a long message (sorry). But in one week, I am sleeping so much better. I am eating like a "normie" which I haven't done since childhood. And I am finally back in my own body. These are true miracles to me- and I haven't been in therapy in weeks!
Each session seems to bring me closer to my subconscious and has more meaning every time. I do it once a day as I find it quite intense. I'm starting to insert my own words while following the videos. My old unbidden thought patterns, “I have never done anything right, I do not deserve to be happy, I am worthless etc. etc.” are now being countered by other thoughts, “I am a human equal to all humans and have only done my best, I deserve to be happy, I have done good things in my life etc etc.” I am taking better care of myself after about a week or so. I feel that just taking a step towards improving self care is a positive thing.
Maybe after the 30 days Danu says is a must, I'll be able to alter the tapping more to my specific issues, but for now, the videos are really helping. So much easier than dragging up awful buried memories, painfully dissecting them, coming to terms and moving on! Weeks instead of years. Awesome!
Forum Member 'Survivor'
Are you always scared of getting into trouble?
Do you live in constant fear of others being angry or cross with you? Are you scared to stand up for yourself for fear of bringing others' wrath down upon you?
Dear Fellow DoNM, (Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers)
It totally sucks, doesn't it?
Constantly having a fear of getting into trouble and having others cross or angry with you ... living in terror of standing up for yourself in case others disapprove of you ... always living with the danger of others' attacks r(or the fear of them at least).
Does this resonate with you?
If so, you need to know that it's NOT your fault. It isn't a flaw or weakness in you. It's just that she trained you so well, from birth, to be scared, and your body and mind have learned that anger and attack can come from any direction at any time. The fear is an automatic reaction now.
The good news is that it doesn't have to continue to be this way!
In fact, this might be the important information you've ever read, because I'm about to share with you a secret way of literally erasing this fear of getting into trouble from your body and mind.
Imagine what it would be like to:
1. No longer have any fear of getting into trouble.
2. Be able to be calm if others are angry with you
3. Be very centred and calm when you speak your truth.
4. No longer have to worry about others' reactions to you.
It would be wonderful, wouldn't it! Imagine the sheer bliss of it.
Well you don't just have to imagine it. You can live it. Read on to find out how.
So what is this secret which can free you from this fear of gettinginto trouble?
The solution is EFT, also called Tapping. It involves nothing more complex than tapping gently on acupuncture points, and it literally erases negative emotions such as the hurt and pain you're experiencing.
And it does that amazingly quickly and easily. Just zaps the hurt and pain into oblivion. It's hard to describe it until you've experienced it - the negative emotions just fade away till they're completely and utterly gone! Vanished, eradicated and non-existent.
What EFT is NOT:
It is NOT talk-therapy. Although there is usually an element of talking, it is really body-work with a talking element, rather than just talking.
It is NOT hypnosis. Although you might find it relaxing, you do not go into any kind of hypnotic trance.
It is NOT faith-healing. You absolutely do not have to believe it for it to work. You can be as sceptical as you like.
It is NOT in any way religious. There is no belief system whatsoever needed.
How EFT is different from traditional counselling:
It makes changes at a much deeper level. Did you ever know something rationally, but not know it deep down? With EFT you experience the acceptance and peace deep down, in your gut and heart and soul, not just as an abstract theory.
It's much, much quicker. Changes that used to take months of therapy can now happen in tens of minutes, or hours at most.
It's much gentler - you can even heal your issue without talking or even thinking about it - you just give it a title or label, and work on that until it's easy to think/talk about.
It's much cheaper: as it's so much quicker, it costs so much less.
Quite frankly, EFT makes traditional counselling obsolete. Why just talk about it when you can heal it?
I came to EFT when I was trying to heal what I now know is the DONM legacy, and I was blown away by the results. It changed my life, literally. I erased issue after issue after issue (traumas, addictions, phobias, limiting beliefs and other blocks), and life just kept getting better and better in terms of better health, better relationships and more joy and contentment in my life. (And I am still using EFT every day, and improving my life every day.)
I then trained as an EFT practitioner - because I knew this was too good to keep to myself, and have helped hundreds of clients over the past seven years to erase phobias, traumas, anxiety and a myriad of other issues. You can see some of the non-DONM feedback here.
As soon as I realised about the unique crazy-making upbringing we DONMs have, I knew that EFT could powerfully resolve these issues quickly and easily. This is why I share, on this site, a video on how to do EFT so you can use it for yourself. The resource is very real and very good, but the challenge is that usually people find it very difficult to know what to say as they tap. And so I have come up with a solution I'm very excited about:
I have created a script in which I guide you
as you tap on this fear of getting into trouble and gently erase it.
This script is very carefully crafted, using my many years of EFT experience combined with my lifetime of DONM experience, to give you a resource which will quite simply erase this fear.
This resourse is unique in the world - created by a DONM for DONMs, addressing the unique issues our crazy upbringing has given us.
Here some comments from DONM forum members who have benefited from their experiences with EFT:
Eating Healthily!
Just checked my food diary and was amazed to see that I didn't eat anything for 2 hours after tapping [The 'Self-Harm' video] - wow! And what I did eat was a cheese and tomato croissant followed 2½ hours later by some mushroom soup.
So I'm seeing results already!
As the results of my neglect [i.e. her business sabotage] became clear today, I had the urge to commit more neglect. I found myself reaching for the mouse to [waste time on the internet] and I checked a couple of news sites about four times. I decided if I was going to do something other than work than it would be EFT. So, I did the self-harm session and then the healing resistance video. While I still felt really disappointed, I got back to work.
Forum Member 'Christine'
The most productive day yet since doing the Tapping!
I think today was probably the most productive day since the beginning of EFT. I did the healing resistance first today and then the self-harm sessions. The huge difference is that [the fallout from her business neglect] would have been proof of my “incompetence” two weeks ago. Today it was “what can I do to mitigate the fallout.”
Forum Member 'Christine'
Used EFT to avoid displacement activities and do the work!
Well, the marketing email is done and queued up to go out at 9:00 am. I stopped in the middle of the process and did and EFT session on hiding. I just wanted to go to the dog park or do something else completely. I had plenty of opportunities to run away so I thought a good session in the middle of it all would help. I think it did. I got some writing done as well.
Forum Member 'Christine', who had been sabotaging by not doing her marketing.)
A superb script!
The script is absolutely ideal for this self-harm/DoNM stuff! It's specific enough to target this particular phenomenon, but broad enough for each person to apply to her own particular penchant for self-harm/neglect/punishment. A superb job, Danu; thank you so much!
Forum Member 'Alex'
This is done in the form of a diary entry by forum member 'Reader'.
Got taken on by an agency after Tapping!
EFT for five days in a row
Feel confident enough to finally apply to a professional talent agency
Get signed with an agency within the hour
Have a complete DoNM-style FREAK OUT that I suck at everything and who the hell do I think I am signing with an agent?
Make the conscious choice to ignore the inner demons and go back to EFT
A few days of calm
Sign up for multiple auditions and become absolutely shameless about self promotion
Have another major FREAK OUT and think I suck at everything
More EFT
I'm currently in a calm place where I still hear the inner voices telling me I suck, but I am making the conscious choice to tap-tap-tap when I feel that anxiety and proceed anyway.
I've also been writing like mad and have plans to push my writing to a literary agency. Feeling major anxiety around that, too, but screw it. Back to EFT. Gonna do it. Life is short.
So this is amazing stuff.
Forum Member 'Reader'
I have practiced EFT for over seven years, TFT for four years and cognitive therapy for almost thirty. Both of my parents are card-carrying narcissists and I bore the brunt of this madness and my mother, especially, was diabolical. What I realized is that no one directly deals with the feelings that any child of a narcissist has because few understand it. So when I used EFT myself I got close but never was able to address the issues that you cover because even I didn't understand what I was feeling.
I have the manuals but I prefer to watch you on the video because you are such a comforting presence, I don't have to feel alone and you have such a beautiful voice.
The first video I tapped along to ("Self-Punishment") I felt so good- and then suddenly craved a box of See's candy. I was shocked because I used to have a severe craving for See's that I had dealt with before and hadn't eaten in years. However, sitting and tapping through the feelings, the craving went away completely- and I knew I was on the right track. At first, I thought that the "Self-Punishment" video wasn't about me because my (and probably others') issues have long been ignored or misidentified - yet it was! I have been punishing myself all of my life through overeating, self-denial, self-sabotage, you name it. Tears came up while I was tapping but they were cleansing because I was, at last, hearing the truth.
I've only had three of your videos ("I Never Belong", "Self-Punishment", "Not Safe to Heal") as well as all of the PDF's. I repeat the "7 Words" all the time and I find them quite comforting to say. I especially like the fact that you've included the positive "Choices" in your videos because I need to know where to go next. I find myself ending the session with a smile.
When I used them the first day, I couldn't believe your words- they felt too foreign even after all of this therapy. However, five days later, I'm nodding my head in agreement as I do my tapping. Interestingly, I have had a much easier time creating healthier boundaries and making healing choices, which is something I wouldn't have expected. Hearing the truth in a non-combative manner, from someone who finally understands me, is like a balm to my heart, mind and soul.
I know through using EFT for so long that specificity is crucial. Yet, I found myself "dancing" around the issue of narcissism because I had never identified it- and nor had anyone else. I have thousands of pages downloaded from Gary Craig's [EFT's founder] original site, not to mention the hundreds of dollars I've wasted on EFT practitioners. The "elephant in the living room" was always missing, so while I found some success I was always just "missing the mark". When I watched your first video, many feelings came up, but mainly recognition. I nodded my head and smiled through the tears as I tapped and thought, "Somebody finally understands me!". My inner child has longed to hear the words that you use in the videos all of my life and I find repeated listening extremely calming and reassuring.
I know that you had worked hard on the wording because I recognize the various techniques that you use. The "art of delivery" comes in- not with the techniques- but the application of them. Most beginners of EFT get stuck with "What do I say?" and you resolve that here beautifully.
So, thank you and I will be eager to buy more!
This is a long message (sorry). But in one week, I am sleeping so much better. I am eating like a "normie" which I haven't done since childhood. And I am finally back in my own body. These are true miracles to me- and I haven't been in therapy in weeks!
Each session seems to bring me closer to my subconscious and has more meaning every time. I do it once a day as I find it quite intense. I'm starting to insert my own words while following the videos. My old unbidden thought patterns, “I have never done anything right, I do not deserve to be happy, I am worthless etc. etc.” are now being countered by other thoughts, “I am a human equal to all humans and have only done my best, I deserve to be happy, I have done good things in my life etc etc.” I am taking better care of myself after about a week or so. I feel that just taking a step towards improving self care is a positive thing.
Maybe after the 30 days Danu says is a must, I'll be able to alter the tapping more to my specific issues, but for now, the videos are really helping. So much easier than dragging up awful buried memories, painfully dissecting them, coming to terms and moving on! Weeks instead of years. Awesome!
Forum Member 'Survivor'
Monday, January 17, 2011
How to Boost Collagen Production in Your Skin
How to Boost Collagen Production in Your Skin
How to Boost Collagen Production in Your Skin88
rate or flag this pageTweet this
By Staci-Barbo7
Collagen is a long, fibrous protein that together with elastin and soft keratin, forms the connective tissue (literally, the tissue that "connects" the skin together) which is responsible for your skin's elasticity and strength. Skin aging - thinning of the skin, appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, and age spots, occur when the collagen begins to break down in your skin. This process is a natural part of aging, which usually begins by your late 20's.
When this begins to happen to us ("I think I see a new laugh line at the corner of my eyes"), many of us seek help in a bottle, or in a jar. And there are many good products out there. Some do a good job of giving temporary results and some don't. In a future article, I will cover which products you can trust. For now, I want to warn you away from the many topical skin care products on the market that contain collagen and make great claims - THEY DON'T WORK! I know this is counter-intuitive; if your skin needs to rebuild collagen and the product contains collagen, it MUST work, right? Well, no. The reason these collagen-containing products don't work is that the collagen molecules are just too large to get inside the skin and do their job of rebuilding. In short, they are simply imposters.
You must build collagen from the inside out!
Dr. Perricone is an expert in the area of the role of foods and nutrients in inflammation, cellular regeneration, and anti-aging. Watch his video below for insight into the inflammatory process in the body - and reversing it - through nutrition.
Look Younger with Anti-Inflammatory Diet
Lifestyle Strategies for Beautiful Skin
So, with all the options available, how in the world are you supposed to know what YOU can do to rejuvenate your skin's elasticity and plumpness? Great question. In this article, we are going to look at the lifestyle strategies that you can adopt to slow down, halt, and even reverse the aging process in your skin to an amazing degree.
First and foremost, DO NOT SMOKE. If you already smoke, the best thing you can do for your skin is to quit. Nothing ages your skin quite so fast as smoking.
If you consume alcohol, do so in extreme moderation, as alcohol has a very similar effect on the skin as cigarette smoking.
Exercise a minimum of three to four times a week. Exercise is good for every aspect of your health, and your skin is no exception.
Finally, the lifestyle choice that has the capacity to make the most improvement in your skin is eating the right foods. Notice that I did not give the garden variety advice to "eat right." There are very specific nutrients that work to protect the existing collagen in your skin, and there are nutrients that actually stimulate collagen regrowth in your skin.
Fresh Face Collagen with Collagen-Boosting Ingredients
Collagen-Boosting Nutrients
The inside-to-outside approach is always your best bet for health and beauty. To look younger, your body must produce new collagen cells in your skin. You must consume foods that help your body protect the collagen it has, while providing the building blocks it needs to build new collagen fibers.
Cold water fish, such as salmon, sardines, cod, mackerel, and tuna are rich in Omega-3 fatty acids that keep skin soft and supple. Eating three to four ounces at least twice a week gives you good amounts of these essential fatty acids. If you are vegan, you can take two Tbsp. of flax seed oil daily instead.
Garlic contains sulfur, which helps your body produce collagen. Garlic contains taurine and lipoid acid, which support damaged collagen fibers. Make garlic a regular component of your meat dishes, stews, beans, soups, ethnic meals, and pasta.
Tomatoes are rich in the antioxidant lycopene, which inhibits collagenases. Collagenases are enzymes that destroy collagen. While many foods have higher nutrient values when they are eaten raw, tomatoes actually contain greater amounts of lycopene when they are cooked. Enjoy liberal doses of stewed tomatoes, tomato sauce, marinara sauce, and spaghetti sauce.
Hot Chili Peppers are an excellent source of Vitamin C!
Vitamin C: Collagen-Boosting Supernutrient
Vitamin C is critical for collagen production in the skin. Therefore, you'll want to make it a priority to eat foods high in Vitamin C.
Many fruits and vegetables are excellent sources of Vitamin C. And of course, we all know that citrus fruits, such as oranges, lemons, and grapefruit are good sources of Vitamin C. That is true. However, did you know that even though these foods ARE good sources of Vitamin C, they are NOT THE BEST sources?
That's right. A number of other fruits and vegetables contain superior amounts of Vitamin C to citrus fruit! Surprisingly, for you guys and gals that love spicy foods, hot chili peppers is THE TOP PICK for Vitamin C - both the red and green varieties! I always knew there was a reason to love salsa. Ola!!
Best Sources of Vitamin C
Food
Vitamin C per 3.5 ounce serving
Hot chili peppers, green (raw)
242 mg.
Guavas
228 mg.
Sweet peppers, yellow (raw)
183 mg.
Lychees (dried)
183 mg.
Black currants, European (raw)
181 mg.
Sweet peppers, green (sauteed)
177 mg.
Sweet peppers, red (sauteed)
163 mg.
Hot chili peppers, red (raw)
144 mg.
Orange juice
138 mg.
Kale (raw)
120 - 130 mg.
Mustard greens (raw)
130 mg.
Sweet peppers, red (raw)
128 mg.
Grapefruit juice
120 mg.
Tomatoes, sun-dried (in oil)
102 mg.
Vitamin C Superfoods
To the right are tables of the foods highest in Vitamin C. I have grouped the foods in the table to the right and below according to amounts of Vitamin C they contain:
Best sources of Vitamin C - 100 to 200 mg.
Very good sources of Vitamin C - 77 to 100 mg.
As you can see in more detail in the tables, the top Vitamin C-containing superfoods (besides hot peppers) are . . . . . .
sweet peppers
guavas
blackcurrants
lychees
oranges and grapefruits
dark leafy greens, peaches
kiwi
broccoli and cauliflower.
Very Good Sources of Vitamin C
Food
Number of mg. of Vitamin C per 100 gram serving (3.5 ounces)
Peaches (frozen)
94 mg.
Broccoli (raw)
89-93 mg.
Kiwi (raw)
7-93 mg.
Cauliflower (raw)
89 mg.
Brussel sprouts (raw)
85 mg.
Banana peppers (raw)
83 mg.
Sweet peppers, green (raw)
80 mg.
Lemons (raw)
77 mg.
New Laser Therapy Promotes Collagen in Skin
Garlic is great for quite a few things more too.
Hot peppers eh? so bell peppers do not fit in there?
I saw kiwi but it is over 100mg. That is a favorite of mine.
any foods or fruits or veggies that are counter-productive besides junk food?
I think the most overlooked counter-productive foods are those that create inflammation in the body, like oils or fats that contain the wrong ratio of omega fats, i.e., lard, hard vegetable shortening (Crisco), hydrogenated oils, partially hydrogenated oils, most margarines, and many prepared foods, which contain hydrogenated oils and/or trans fats. The key is to look for great ingredients - the same ones you would use if you were cooking at home (assuming a basic knowledge of nutrition and the will to use it).
Next most counter-productive foods - I would say that foods made from a COMBINATION of high fats (or bad fats) AND sugar qualify.
Finally, avoid foods made with refined ingredients, like white flour and high fructose corn syrup. The body just does not favor these foods that do not appear in nature; that is why they create inflammation and wreak havoc within the body's systems. This naturally includes the skin, as our bodies' largest organ (that serves a vital role in excreting these UN-natural substances, by the way).
Anti-Aging and Collagen in the News
Wrinkle reducing collagen creams 'are a waste of money', say scientists
Daily Mail21 hours ago
Experts say that the collagen molecules in the enticing-sounding lotions and potions are so large that very few make it through the skin.
Wrinkles reducing creams are 'waste of money'
New Kerala17 hours ago
London, Jan 17 : Using wrinkles creams to smooth and plump your skin does no good; rather it affects your pocket, scientists have said.
Hub-Knobbing
Anti Aging Light Therapy -- LED
Anti aging light therapy is something that science is just beginning to study. It's interesting to think of light being used as an anti aging technique, especially since one of the worst things for the skin...
Vitamin C and Collagen, an anti-aging connection
How good ol' vitamin C plays a vital role in collagen production in our bodies. And collagen, so much more than just the "youthful" matter under our skin!
Amazing Health Benefits of Vitamin C
Vitamin C is one of the most important anti-oxidant. It is important to know that Vitamin C is not produced by the body; therefore it is necessary to take a huge amount of it. When people age their natural...
Popular Treatments for Anti-aging and Joint Inflammation
In the western world there has been much debate over the effectiveness of hyaluronic acid supplements as treatments for anti-aging, premature aging and joint inflammation. The popularity of these supplements...
How to Boost Collagen Production in Your Skin88
rate or flag this pageTweet this
By Staci-Barbo7
Collagen is a long, fibrous protein that together with elastin and soft keratin, forms the connective tissue (literally, the tissue that "connects" the skin together) which is responsible for your skin's elasticity and strength. Skin aging - thinning of the skin, appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, and age spots, occur when the collagen begins to break down in your skin. This process is a natural part of aging, which usually begins by your late 20's.
When this begins to happen to us ("I think I see a new laugh line at the corner of my eyes"), many of us seek help in a bottle, or in a jar. And there are many good products out there. Some do a good job of giving temporary results and some don't. In a future article, I will cover which products you can trust. For now, I want to warn you away from the many topical skin care products on the market that contain collagen and make great claims - THEY DON'T WORK! I know this is counter-intuitive; if your skin needs to rebuild collagen and the product contains collagen, it MUST work, right? Well, no. The reason these collagen-containing products don't work is that the collagen molecules are just too large to get inside the skin and do their job of rebuilding. In short, they are simply imposters.
You must build collagen from the inside out!
Dr. Perricone is an expert in the area of the role of foods and nutrients in inflammation, cellular regeneration, and anti-aging. Watch his video below for insight into the inflammatory process in the body - and reversing it - through nutrition.
Look Younger with Anti-Inflammatory Diet
Lifestyle Strategies for Beautiful Skin
So, with all the options available, how in the world are you supposed to know what YOU can do to rejuvenate your skin's elasticity and plumpness? Great question. In this article, we are going to look at the lifestyle strategies that you can adopt to slow down, halt, and even reverse the aging process in your skin to an amazing degree.
First and foremost, DO NOT SMOKE. If you already smoke, the best thing you can do for your skin is to quit. Nothing ages your skin quite so fast as smoking.
If you consume alcohol, do so in extreme moderation, as alcohol has a very similar effect on the skin as cigarette smoking.
Exercise a minimum of three to four times a week. Exercise is good for every aspect of your health, and your skin is no exception.
Finally, the lifestyle choice that has the capacity to make the most improvement in your skin is eating the right foods. Notice that I did not give the garden variety advice to "eat right." There are very specific nutrients that work to protect the existing collagen in your skin, and there are nutrients that actually stimulate collagen regrowth in your skin.
Fresh Face Collagen with Collagen-Boosting Ingredients
Collagen-Boosting Nutrients
The inside-to-outside approach is always your best bet for health and beauty. To look younger, your body must produce new collagen cells in your skin. You must consume foods that help your body protect the collagen it has, while providing the building blocks it needs to build new collagen fibers.
Cold water fish, such as salmon, sardines, cod, mackerel, and tuna are rich in Omega-3 fatty acids that keep skin soft and supple. Eating three to four ounces at least twice a week gives you good amounts of these essential fatty acids. If you are vegan, you can take two Tbsp. of flax seed oil daily instead.
Garlic contains sulfur, which helps your body produce collagen. Garlic contains taurine and lipoid acid, which support damaged collagen fibers. Make garlic a regular component of your meat dishes, stews, beans, soups, ethnic meals, and pasta.
Tomatoes are rich in the antioxidant lycopene, which inhibits collagenases. Collagenases are enzymes that destroy collagen. While many foods have higher nutrient values when they are eaten raw, tomatoes actually contain greater amounts of lycopene when they are cooked. Enjoy liberal doses of stewed tomatoes, tomato sauce, marinara sauce, and spaghetti sauce.
Hot Chili Peppers are an excellent source of Vitamin C!
Vitamin C: Collagen-Boosting Supernutrient
Vitamin C is critical for collagen production in the skin. Therefore, you'll want to make it a priority to eat foods high in Vitamin C.
Many fruits and vegetables are excellent sources of Vitamin C. And of course, we all know that citrus fruits, such as oranges, lemons, and grapefruit are good sources of Vitamin C. That is true. However, did you know that even though these foods ARE good sources of Vitamin C, they are NOT THE BEST sources?
That's right. A number of other fruits and vegetables contain superior amounts of Vitamin C to citrus fruit! Surprisingly, for you guys and gals that love spicy foods, hot chili peppers is THE TOP PICK for Vitamin C - both the red and green varieties! I always knew there was a reason to love salsa. Ola!!
Best Sources of Vitamin C
Food
Vitamin C per 3.5 ounce serving
Hot chili peppers, green (raw)
242 mg.
Guavas
228 mg.
Sweet peppers, yellow (raw)
183 mg.
Lychees (dried)
183 mg.
Black currants, European (raw)
181 mg.
Sweet peppers, green (sauteed)
177 mg.
Sweet peppers, red (sauteed)
163 mg.
Hot chili peppers, red (raw)
144 mg.
Orange juice
138 mg.
Kale (raw)
120 - 130 mg.
Mustard greens (raw)
130 mg.
Sweet peppers, red (raw)
128 mg.
Grapefruit juice
120 mg.
Tomatoes, sun-dried (in oil)
102 mg.
Vitamin C Superfoods
To the right are tables of the foods highest in Vitamin C. I have grouped the foods in the table to the right and below according to amounts of Vitamin C they contain:
Best sources of Vitamin C - 100 to 200 mg.
Very good sources of Vitamin C - 77 to 100 mg.
As you can see in more detail in the tables, the top Vitamin C-containing superfoods (besides hot peppers) are . . . . . .
sweet peppers
guavas
blackcurrants
lychees
oranges and grapefruits
dark leafy greens, peaches
kiwi
broccoli and cauliflower.
Very Good Sources of Vitamin C
Food
Number of mg. of Vitamin C per 100 gram serving (3.5 ounces)
Peaches (frozen)
94 mg.
Broccoli (raw)
89-93 mg.
Kiwi (raw)
7-93 mg.
Cauliflower (raw)
89 mg.
Brussel sprouts (raw)
85 mg.
Banana peppers (raw)
83 mg.
Sweet peppers, green (raw)
80 mg.
Lemons (raw)
77 mg.
New Laser Therapy Promotes Collagen in Skin
Garlic is great for quite a few things more too.
Hot peppers eh? so bell peppers do not fit in there?
I saw kiwi but it is over 100mg. That is a favorite of mine.
any foods or fruits or veggies that are counter-productive besides junk food?
I think the most overlooked counter-productive foods are those that create inflammation in the body, like oils or fats that contain the wrong ratio of omega fats, i.e., lard, hard vegetable shortening (Crisco), hydrogenated oils, partially hydrogenated oils, most margarines, and many prepared foods, which contain hydrogenated oils and/or trans fats. The key is to look for great ingredients - the same ones you would use if you were cooking at home (assuming a basic knowledge of nutrition and the will to use it).
Next most counter-productive foods - I would say that foods made from a COMBINATION of high fats (or bad fats) AND sugar qualify.
Finally, avoid foods made with refined ingredients, like white flour and high fructose corn syrup. The body just does not favor these foods that do not appear in nature; that is why they create inflammation and wreak havoc within the body's systems. This naturally includes the skin, as our bodies' largest organ (that serves a vital role in excreting these UN-natural substances, by the way).
Anti-Aging and Collagen in the News
Wrinkle reducing collagen creams 'are a waste of money', say scientists
Daily Mail21 hours ago
Experts say that the collagen molecules in the enticing-sounding lotions and potions are so large that very few make it through the skin.
Wrinkles reducing creams are 'waste of money'
New Kerala17 hours ago
London, Jan 17 : Using wrinkles creams to smooth and plump your skin does no good; rather it affects your pocket, scientists have said.
Hub-Knobbing
Anti Aging Light Therapy -- LED
Anti aging light therapy is something that science is just beginning to study. It's interesting to think of light being used as an anti aging technique, especially since one of the worst things for the skin...
Vitamin C and Collagen, an anti-aging connection
How good ol' vitamin C plays a vital role in collagen production in our bodies. And collagen, so much more than just the "youthful" matter under our skin!
Amazing Health Benefits of Vitamin C
Vitamin C is one of the most important anti-oxidant. It is important to know that Vitamin C is not produced by the body; therefore it is necessary to take a huge amount of it. When people age their natural...
Popular Treatments for Anti-aging and Joint Inflammation
In the western world there has been much debate over the effectiveness of hyaluronic acid supplements as treatments for anti-aging, premature aging and joint inflammation. The popularity of these supplements...
ALL ABOUT SCARVES
Check out Tiffany Hendra and Hanna Hilburn's Sanctuary of Style on Youtube and Facebook. Tiffany is one of the rare cool chicks out there with a great sense of style and a gift for spreading her creativity ~ genuine and giving, she wants other women to look and feel their best and achieve happiness as well. WHAT? I know! She's a find, and she shares hers (including Hanna) with anyone interested.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)